How to manage your day-to-day life with two babies.

Becoming a mom is a beautiful, thrilling experience. Being a parent teaches you so much about yourself, and you never stop learning, even when your children are adults. Things get even more interesting when you become a mother of two, especially if they are close in age. 

Many moms who are about to be second-time parents are genuinely curious. “What is the experience like?” “Is the transition hard?” “How do I even parent two kids when one is already such a handful?” If you have these questions, you are not alone. In fact, most parents worry about the shift in the family dynamic when a second baby is about to be introduced. 

In part one of the blog, we spoke about preparing for baby number two. Now let’s discuss tips you can utilize once baby number two is actually here. 

How to manage your day-to-day life with two babies?

1. Create a routine and try to stick to it -

This is far easier said than done, especially because kids are sometimes unpredictable, but creating a routine could be helpful. Having a flow to your day can help your toddler and infant to get into a rhythm that can eventually become habitual. 

That doesn’t mean it has to be a strict schedule, which could be harder for younger kids to follow. Instead, try to create a natural routine that flows, like - waking up around the same time daily, brushing their teeth, having breakfast, playtime, and napping. Try to keep them within your family’s natural habits instead of creating a completely isolated schedule. 

2. Prioritize individual time -

With a newborn in the picture, it’s very easy to get accustomed to focusing only on them. It’s natural since they rely more on you, especially if you are nursing. However, your toddler’s independence is not a sign that they don’t need you anymore. It’s good to remember that they are still a baby, too. 

Remember, your toddler is also getting used to the idea that they are no longer an only child, and what was once individualized attention is now being shared. Prioritize even 15-20 minutes of individual time with your toddler. It could be as simple as reading a book or playing a game with them, but it will definitely make a difference, and help them to feel seen and loved.

3. Avoid comparison -

It’s tempting to want to compare children, especially in moments where one child is being particularly difficult. The key to avoiding comparing both children is to be self-aware of these moments, and not express them. Comparison to their sibling or even other children their age could cause them to feel less valued. 

Instead, embrace their individualities. Remember that they are different children with different personalities and interests. What works for one child may not work for the other. Try to be patient and flexible with both.

4. Don’t forget naps & quiet times -

Skipping nap times can make kids cranky and harder to handle than usual. A designated nap or quiet time during the day is essential, even for you. If you are able to take even 20 minutes for yourself, it will do wonders in helping you to rest, recharge, and return to tackle the last part of the day. 

5. Take breaks -

In part one of this blog, we spoke about the importance of asking for help, and we believe it imperative to stress this point once more. Taking care of two kids is no easy feat. It requires a great deal of restructuring and flexibility, but it also demands that you perform as efficiently as possible. You cannot perform at your best if you are continuously fatigued, overwhelmed, and irritable.

Ask for help from your partner, trusted friends, or family, even if your break is as simple as taking a nap, watching a movie, or taking a walk outside for some fresh air away from the kids. 

Parenthood is a journey with many ups and downs, but it’s one well worth it.